THE FATE OF WOMAN IN THESE DAYS

Women are the main subject of discussion in recent years. Everywhere the gender issues are reverberated to demand the equality of rank as God’s creature in the world. Somehow, why the act of women’s despising still occur until the time being? Is it caused by the cultural factors that still dominate or is there no awareness of the people who oppress the weak?

From the beginning women are created to receive then noble duty of God as custodian of the growth or widely known as the chain of life. The role as a mother is a wonderful thing. Mother can be pregnant, give birth and raise children. The role of women as mothers has been included in the co-workers with God in heaven to give love and education to their children which is also the heir to the kingdom of heaven.

Discussion on women and the many issues surrounding their lives are not likely to ever disappear from the scene of life of our society. Dynamics of a series of episodes surrounding the life always become a special topic for discussion. While we look back at Kartini era women's rights fought for equality in society. RA Kartini as a warrior woman's emancipation movement has raised the dignity of women from the ground is seen as being No.2. Fact that the woman's life journey is still a lot of experienced the dark side. Classical problems not much different from what happened in the past still happened to them as rape, sexual abuse, domestic violence assault, etc...Of all these cases, more women are victims.

NTT is one of the provinces where the level of violence against women is still very high. The cases of violence against women in East Nusa Tenggara (NTT) during the period 2009 to September 2011, was reaching1580 cases; Based on the results of investigations carried by NTT Police on Friday (16/10/11).  Cases of violence against women in the province is generally because the issue of social construction and social hierarchy in society. In addition, cultural, liquor, economic pressures, another ideal man and the other woman's dream and temperament although NTT society.

The most detrimental consequences for women who are victims of violence is the impact on mental health conditions. The impact is especially pronounced in female victims of sexual violence. In the act of rape, for example, this was attacked by the female body. However, that destroyed the entire identity of the woman's physical health, mental, psychological, and social. Domestic violence is usually a chronic occurrence in a woman's domestic life. Physical injury can be cured after treatment, but the mental psychological injury (such as insomnia, depression, and various forms of psychosomatic up with suicidal ideation) will always be open again at any time. The most difficult psychological impact is the loss of confidence restored to themselves and others. There was also a tendency for people to always blame the victim. This is influenced by the people who always want to look harmonious. In fact, although the incident was reported, efforts to protect victims and punish the perpetrators of violence often fail. The condition occurs due to domestic violence, particularly  against women, never considered the issue of human rights violations. Though domestic violence is actually a crime against  individuals  and communities that perpetrators should be punished, but it is difficult to handle (outside) because it considered the internal affairs of the household. Economic trouble experienced by the family plantation workers led to women's must plunge into labor. Women, who put family as the first part, tend to try hard to keep their family. Thus, society already, especially in rural areas still have a wide view that women are being number two. This implies the difficulty women have access to life-like access to land, capital, and financial.

Along with the development of science, finally the time is changed. Paradigm shifts, women who had just placed in the back, now have the same roles as men. They can be leaders and have the same rights and the role of a man without changing its nature as a woman. The role of women is very important, because in their poverty reduction is believed to have more sensitivity than the men in the economic and social. The views that women are weak creatures are erased. Now they have an equal role with men, starting from the upper levels of society, until the bottom level. Political world that was no women before buy they are already starting to believe that real women can too.

As we know, women had arisen from the ground up. They have started to get involved in organizations to help other who still trapped as victims of abuse and violence. For example, is the on March 8, 2012, that coincides with the anniversary of women worldwide, many women's organizations staged a demonstration to demand the government's attention to their rights ignored? Other examples are in Kupang, already available "House of Women” which is a place for women to complain about the problems faced relating to abuse and violence they experienced.

As women, we should proud that even though not all women get the rights properly, but some of us have started to raise the dignity of women. Wise sentences teach us to reflect our self about the existence of woman (Korrie Layun Rampan. Wanita di Jantung Kota Jakarta, Grasindo- Jakarta.2000); the woman is the epitome of gentleness weakness; symbol of the earth that grows rice and vegetables of all physical food; the woman is a symbol of love; love to dance on the plains of the heart, and love to wander in the whole blood in the veins, is not she? She is the music which was picking a singing by herself, who reveals a long story, as if the song is sung in the dawn of a flock of birds that contains the sun. Why does she may be brutalized? Because she is waiting for softness. A woman's heart is a deep secret that cannot be measured in how much depth.

(Penulis: Mariana Kelen)